The fox and the lily











{March 26, 2010}   I can’t say I like them

I have a very large problem with 3rd wave feminism, yet I keep hearing everyone extolling the virtues of it from the right to bare arms pornography, to the right of women to have abusive power dynamics as well as long as it’s only with children and animals and other women; unless she wants to get an abortion or contraception….than she has the right to try to get a thousand or so dollars up in 2-8 weeks (I’m thinking of a very cheap abortion here) and than get a procerdure that will leave her tender for a few days but still have go to work, and all because women – according to theird wave feminist thought – have the right/should do sex without a condom like in porn. The rationale is that porn is liberating to women, for any number of reasons, from that it stops men from raping us (rape rates have been jumping since porn became mainstream), to porn introducing ideas to spice up the bedroom (which is sad mind, because I didn’t need porn to make your girlfriend have fully consenting sex with me last night1.), so porn must be something we should want to emulate because it’s so ~~*~~freeing~~*~~.

Yes I just used the ~~*~~fairy sparkles~~*~~ for freeing, because in this case these are people who are on the other end of the patriarchy stick, and seem to think they have left the stick altogether because they were liberated by the less extreme 2nd wave feminist factions out there.

To make it a little more personal I know a female bodied person, who’s fairly young – around my age actually – that has a healthy sex life with their five long term lovers/romantic partners, is an encyclopedia of safe sex, doesn’t have sex without lube, a dental damn and a condom (last two at different times of course) and knows how to do herbal abortions. They’re also child-free, anti-porn,, vegan and an environmentalist. They also have an active social life. Overall they’re a very empowered and individual person, and they’re about as sex-positive as you can get.

However for all this empowerment they can’t masturbate. Not because of sexual trauma, not because of religion, not because of their partners, or anything like that. They’re reasoning is, and I quote:

“All the feminist that I grew up around where in to the newschool stuff, and the general consensus on masturbation was that if you weren’t doing it you were repressed and would never have mind-blowing sex. Also that you should know how to get yourself off because all you heeded to do was just rub your clitoris, or stick something in yourself, and you needed a vibrator to be liberated, or if you were a guy you just needed to pump your dick and that was it. It was automated and instinctual, feelings weren’t allowed and only the type of passion was the type portrayed by Max Hardcore or HBO late night. I’m really too ashamed to find self-pleasure because vibrators feel weird, my sex is all about the feelings my partner(s) and I have for everything, and my clitoris and vaginal canal aren’t all that sensitive compared to the rest of the stuff down there. Mostly though it’s because I don’t know how, and none of these “liberated” women will talk about it…unless there’s a vibe or a clit to be had.”

This is because my friend grew up in an area that was fairly progressive and had more third wave feminist than you could shake a stick at. They grew up in one of the few places were “feminist” was a cool word, so long as you didn’t mention Mary Daly of course. Feminist who say that porn is good, but that we shouldn’t learn our sex from it, taught this poor soul that the exact opposite of the old style of oppression is still oppression.

The idea that you have a right to say yes with no mention of the right to say no except in passing, is no different than the idea of “well she didn’t say no explicitly”. The right to say yes but only to say no to the “right” men or your repressed is a false power. It says that you can say yes, but than the second you say “no, I don’t feel like I want this” it tells you that you’re repressed, that you have to say yes because he’s hot/just your type/doesn’t look like a rapist/is into BDSM/is liberated to, that you’re being irrational What do feelings matter when he’s hot, and/or liberated, and/or the right guy for you to say yes to?

This is what the third wave believes. That there is a yes, but only sometimes a no. That shame is only shame when it doesn’t agree with what they watch and what the male culture wants. That those who are not oppressed can co-opt are oppression and claim it for themselves because they have enough money to get bone sawed off in their face and have their dick sliced off. They believe that in the end they are liberated because they listen to men, and just like the 2nd wave they’re going to have a power dynamic over children to by either having them, or by not having them and hating them and their cow like mothers. And I just can’t not have beef with that.

1: Burn!

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So I have this absolutely perfect skirt. It complements my legs, it can be used for both heavy duty functions like playing soccer, to fashion things like chilling around the house or looking nice at a party. It’s perfect except for one little thing that ruins it. It has no ass. Literally the fashion designers made it so that it was all the same length of fabric. Nice idea in practice until you realize one thing; everything leans forward, and human beings, male, female, of intersex bodied, have ass. You know those things that hang off the back and that when things are going really well, you can grab? Yeah those, they puff skirts up in a very nice way, very nice indeed, but they also make it where designers have to account for extra fabric. This skirt maker didn’t, and it got me thinking about how many other times I’ve brought home a dress, skirt, shirt, pants, you name it, that hasn’t accounted for my body not fitting the “standard” model.

I have small breasts – barely a B-cup at best – I’m not skinny, but I don’t think I could really lose a few pounds and be as healthy as I am, I fit a small guys and a large women’s, and I have an ass. The “average” says I should have large breast to fit my excess fat, and that my breast “shouldn’t sag, they can drop but not sag” even though they should be large enough to look like I had GG implants. It also says that I shouldn’t have an ass, or if I do it should be a bubble butt, one of those little things that looks like a bouncy ball with a crack in the middle. They’re the type of butts only trannies have, and that’s why men think those types of women love taking it in the backdoor, because those women have a prostate and an adam’s apple.

Anyhow I love making my own clothes, or fitting things together in ways that no one else could pull off. I love finding ways to accent tummies without making them lumpy, or finding ways to give normal and small heighted girls pride – even though I’m taller myself – or in just making people look good in the clothes they wear. Now mind clothesmen no longer exist so you can’t get anything truly custom made anymore, unless you know a friend of a friend or some such thing, but big name fashion designers and makers should at least have the common sense to know how to make something for differing body types, if one chick in her bedroom knows how to do so.

The natural female body is actually fatter than I am in most cases. Those women who have never met civilization and live in areas like the amazon and such, who rarely if ever starve and eat a humans natural diet of fruit, nuts, greens and barks tend to be heavy set, as do the men. They have bellies, and small breasts and nice rears that stick out like rears are meant to. These are the clothes I try to design, ones that would look good on a natural body that humans are meant to have, not the designs that most people make, but ones for the actual body, ones that clothes makers should design for.

Than again the clothes designers are man apologists, or have designated themselves as Man because they have a penis. They think that “men are visual creatures” that there’s only one healthy body type though “there are many different body shapes” that they never design for. They decide to make clothes for porn stars – who can’t even fit in to their clothes -, add a bit of extra fabric all around instead of making variations of their sizes to accommodate things that may be smaller or bigger than perceived, and than they sell it off and claim that their body positive because “hey look we made Jenna’s clothes in extra large, for girls who are above size 10!”. Excuse me for not being amused at you wanting me to dress like a skank.

Yes we can’t make clothes that fit everyone with the way we currently have our society run, and clothes being tailor made would be to expensive. I have a simple solution to both of these problems though, kill off most of humanity and capitalism in full, than we’ll have no problem at all. We’ll be back in our natural environment, so clothes won’t be a necessity or a problem. Simple really.

This is why you shouldn’t sell to creative radical clothes makers. They’ll always draw the most abstract conclusions. No?



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